Our Matchmaker God
Homily for the Nuptial Mass uniting Tara Jane Frinton to Brian Joseph Finzel
Preached on June 13, 2009 at Mary, Queen of the Holy Rosary Church, Lexington KY
Readings: Genesis 2:18-24; Psalm 145: 8-9, 10, 15, 17-18; 1 Corinthians 12:31-13:8a; Mark 10:6-9
Long before eharmony ever came into the picture, God was already playing matchmaker. In fact, it was He who first recognized that “it is not good for man to be alone” (Gen. 2:18). And so, at the beginning of creation, God made a suitable partner for man (cf. Gen. 2:18), a partner so compatible with him that even Adam had to exclaim, “This one, at last, is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh” (Gen. 2:23). This was the world’s first match: the woman made for that man, the man made for that woman. It was a good match, too, notwithstanding that incident with the garden snake. It was a good match because nothing could separate them whom God had joined together (cf. Mk. 10:9). The exile east of Eden could not separate them. Their son’s murder at the hand of his own brother could not separate them. The first taste of the salt of our tears could not separate them. Adam and Eve were joined together so intimately that the author of Genesis tells us that “the two of them [became] one body” (Gen. 2:24).Such is a match made by God. Such is a marriage bound by Heaven.
And then came eharmony, match.com, and other online matchmaking sites. Things definitely have changed since the beginning of creation. Yet, some things stay the same. People still recognize that it is not good to be alone. They still yearn for a compatible partner, a suitable partner. They still yearn to find the perfect match. That is the story of Brian and Tara, the story of a man who longed for that woman, of a woman who longed for that man. It is a eharmony story, a match made online.
But, online matches can only go so far as to connect this one with that one. While they have found so many things that they were compatible with, nothing could have prepared Brian and Tara for exploding spaghetti, 911 calls, getting locked out of a moving van, and the combined salaries of a high school teacher and a social worker. At a certain point, this eharmony story had to become a Brian-and-Tara-story; this match made online had to grow to a love shared offline.
That is why they are here. Brian and Tara have come today to God’s house to ask Him to do for them what eharmony could never do. Brian and Tara have come to our matchmaker God so that He might bind them together as once He had bound the first man with the first woman. They have come to ask for the grace to be true in good times and in bad, in sickness and in health. They have come to be joined in a love that “bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things” (1 Cor. 13:7). They have come to join their names with Adam and Eve and the countless men and women who had said “I do” to a match confirmed by God, to a marriage bound by Heaven.
I do not know whether eharmony will ever contact Brian and Tara to make a commercial of their match made online. But, whether they do or not, we hope and we pray that their married life will be a living advertisement to all who meet them of a marriage made in Heaven.